So Saturday night I stayed the night at my moms so I could spend some time with my family while he stayed home to have some alone time. We do this every once in a while so we don’t get sick of each other and because I’m getting sick of his family that we live with (though we’re moving into our own apartment in 10 more . Well apparently while I was at my moms his mother told him that he has to continue giving her $500 a month after we move out because it’s his “responsivity” to support her and just not to tell me about it… Obviously he told me when he picked me up Sunday, and let me tell you, I’m fucking pissed off. Just the day before hand she was telling me she’s glad we’re getting our own place, that we’ll get along better when no one is coming in between us (which is her 90% of the time BTW) and then she goes behind my back and does that?
Now if she asked or at least didn’t tell him to hide it from me I wouldn’t be so mad, but the thing is, she told him it’s his responsibility and then told him to hide it from me. So basically she’s telling him he has take our money and support her without telling me, essentially stealing from us. I told him absolutely not, if he even gave her a dollar without her intending to pay us back I’ll leave him. I love him more than anything but we are NOT supporting his mother, she can work and one of his older brothers lives with her for free (Even though he has a better job then us)!
He told her I said no, that we can’t afford it; I mean we aren’t rich! If we were we’d be buying a place, not renting an $800 two bedroom apartment! She told him that I’m being nasty like his other brothers wife and that he needs to put his foot down like his brother and do his job to support her. Aparently his other brother sends her around $600 a month even though his wife told him not to, because they can’t afford it. That pissed me off because they have a 3 year old, and how dare his mother expect that out of her children. What kind of women expects her children to struggle just to get free money from them? It’s not like she can’t work, she actually starts a new job tomorrow (one I helped her get), she just wants to have extra money.
She hasn’t even talked to me or looked at me since he told her I said absolutely not. Like I can’t believe her, how dare she try to tell him to steal from me (Even though it’s his money it would’ve effected me because he wouldn’t of been able to pay his half of the bills and I would’ve had to pay what he couldn’t so yeah it would’ve been stealing from me), lie to me, and to basically tell me that I have no say! I’m the one that takes care of our finances, I make sure the bills are paid, I check our bank accounts and make sure we aren’t more then $100 in debt every month. Did she really think I wouldn’t notice $500 missing every month? Plus I’m his fucking wife! How dare she try to make him make a huge decision like that behind my back! I lived with her for a year now, and I’ve always asked her permission before doing anything in her home, even if it wouldn’t affect her! Yet she doesn’t show me the same decency? Wow.
I just can’t fathom what the fuck this women was thinking demanding money from us. I do agree he does have to help his mother out, just not financially. I help my mom by babysitting my sister once in a while, which is really the only thing I can do for her. I would have no problem with him going and fixing things for her, helping her with chores or mowing her lawn, but asking for money every month is way out of line. We need that money, especially since we plan on having kids soon.
Okay, I think my rant is over.